slipandstumble wrote:i need a guy... but there's only one i want. though not for sex, i just enjoy the affection.
speaking of that, i'd imagine it would be harder for guys to 'just be affectionate' for a long period of time than it would be for girls - does that make sense?
I understand just wanting affection and wanting to take things slow, I really do. I think this is true for a lot of men as they pass 30 and head to "real male maturity" which is like 40
For me it even means my not minding being seen as less "dateable" as I was a decade ago. Seriously, going out all the time, and dating and "all that" is like a full time job, one I no longer have the desire to spend my energy on it.
But sometimes I think now I am sending the wrong message when I let the whole sex thing slide for too long once I do start seeing people, what I like to do is show that "hanging out with me" does not always have to be about sex once we have done it a few times, one can be intimate with another person without sex occurring, but in a potentially romantic situation, its going to be there until both people trust the other's intentions, I just do not want to be lead on like some of the guys I've known that have gone on like 20 dates with some girl, cuddled and kissed, comforted these women, and then my retarded guy friends are surprised when someone else comes in and "sweeps them off their feet". There must be some way to find a balance between the extremes of being sexually aggressive and being a completely spineless wimp who makes oneself available for women to cry on the shoulder of. I will let you know when I find it.
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I know I went on a tangent there, sorry. But in the end, I am just realizing that I personally do not want to be in a possibly meaningful & sexual relationship with someone that did not also want to become
passionate 
Having said that, real passion is harder and harder to come by these days, just as good old kindness and affection.
Ok, time for me to go the confession thread and get something off my chest.
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